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To Troll or Not to Troll?

I just read, actually a very nice and empowering, post by Olive Ole: Technique against Trolls and Bullies.
I think much of all the advice absolutely makes sense and I also agree with that. Still, I might have some points I’d like to complement without taking anything away of that post. I write a blog post on its own instead of a comment as I can write more freely here 🙂

The first one is the difference between real life and online (only) relationships.

Relationships not in the sense of being a couple but interaction between people in general. When one is trolled in real life, or being bullied, to me, it is much more difficult to handle as in many situations there is no escape and one might have to see that person, or group, every. single. day. It takes also courage and the insight in knowing a person’s weakness to point out with a hit. Unfortunately, I didn’t have that courage when I was a child and there were many more than just 1 bully. So, from my experience, there is no “switch off” button.

That brings me to the second point, and that is awareness and choice.

For a short while, I used an app called Whisper. That’s an app on which everyone just can fart out whatever is in their bloody minds, anonymously, just to get rid of it. They say that “All starts with a Whisper” and that it is perfect to share secrets and things one wouldn’t do in real life, Facebook, whatever other app. There too, random people trolling random strangers, about whatever topic. Surely, there were some good conversations too, but still.

Once I saw someone completely getting affected by such a troll and I asked her, privately, why it affects her that much. She had her ‘secret’ and that made her vulnerable. So, trolls see that and go exactly after her vulnerability and pinpoint the weak spot as she just wrote that out.

It is not only on random stranger apps like whisper but also on Twitter, Facebook groups/pages and all. Yet, my line of thought stays the same. We need to be aware that online many people are random, met by chance, having no clue about your private context, not being able to see or give the right nuance and that we, therefore, cannot or shouldn’t give people we met this way value to own lives/ourselves they haven’t gotten a clue about. Yes, sure there are people when there is a click and one can start sharing that context, nuance, experience, etc, with as goal to understand, to learn, to add-on to your own life either by giving or receiving.

My addition to Olive’s post is, to be aware not to give any value to anyone who one has randomly met by chance online (maybe offline too actually). Who are you trying to take something away from me? What have you done to deserve my attention? Tell me, can you add-on to my life positively, or can I add on to yours? No? Byeeeeee!!!! and there always is a block option on any app or forum. You are important and with all imperfections you have, you never should allow giving value to people who abuse that. You’re too good for that to happen.

It also is a matter of choice, reason before emotion. What is best for me in this particular context and is it sustainable. In a group setting, a Facebook group about a particular subject, there are more people who sees that troll, and when there are stronger relationships, the troll is on his own and you can ask help from other people. When it is a one on one situation, then, “don’t pick a fight you can’t win” and if blocking is solving the problem, perfect! There was once a student who quit the program I was teaching. We already were on facebook but then he started to turn out being nasty, trolling and all. Well, that showed how he was, his attitude of not having the courage to speak it out in real life and trying to annoy me on facebook. Ooohh I really didn’t want to put attention to him at all, and just blocked. Yes, sure things happened before he left the school, I made mistakes too, yet, open to solve them.

To wrap it up, there are people who matter and people who don’t. Give to the people who matter and drop the rest (without feeling bad about it!).

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About Daniel Arendzen

MSc Poverty Reduction (candidate), founder and secretary of www.moringaformawa.org. Developing the foundation, writing for the website and on konnexxion.net I write my personal view on current events. Contact me through daniel@stichtingmoringaformawa.org

4 responses to “To Troll or Not to Troll?”

  1. Grace Anne says :

    This is one of the major reasons why people can’t open up to anyone and get depressed!! When they do open up, they go for the foxes in sheep skin and it’s the same story all over again. World needs more kind people. Everyone seems to have just forgetting how intense a person feels about the words said to them!!

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    • Daniel Arendzen says :

      Not opening up because of trolls?
      I do agree there indeed need to be many more kind people, just random acts of kindness and being able to give content in the right context.
      Just me speaking, to me, I can’t care less when people who don’t matter yet give whatever attitude or opinion… I don’t want to spend my energy in things or people that brings me down. I have been down there, no more 😉 wanna stay happy and help other people getting happy too

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  2. Olive Ole says :

    Dear Daniel,
    Thank you so much for posting this very insightful post and for linking to my post! I am honored to have inspired such an insighful post.

    I do feel that our posts complement eachother, and I love that you go a little more in debpt in this important topic.

    You make a very good point in that one might lack the courage to strike back, as one has to be in the right place mentally to do so. And that is where we go into a loop – as the bullying needs to stop before we can get to that place where we are able to put our foot down.

    Your point in blocking is important, as that will give us that little break to get to a more self assertive place in our head. Also important to know that the most eager trolls will not let a simple block stop them. They just make a new username and go at you again.

    Yes, block ’em, forget ’em and move on with your wonderful life is the best medicine!

    Thank you again for this post. Wishing you a fabulous, troll- and bully free Tuesday!

    Liked by 1 person

    • Daniel Arendzen says :

      Ohh hey! Thank you for liking my comment/post 🙂 I haven’t experienced this bullying with ongoing new profile making and all. But, I also can imagine that close people know about the troll and that they can support the victim. Yet, the victim must be open about and not hide it and it’s always good to ask for help.
      You too! Har en godt dag 😀

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