The Toilet (a.k.a. The Restroom)

One of the basic fundamental thoughts about existentialism is the question: “What was first? The idea/concept or the result/object?”

Imagine living before the dark ages has started, before Christianity became popular, before we had proper houses, before paper was invented, and in a time when there were a mere 1 billion people on this planet. Biologically we are simply transforming food into shit. We eat, take all out the body needs and dispose what we don’t need. That has to come out eventually, sometimes “a little bit” faster when something bad enters our bodies, but that’s a whole different story.

In order to dispose our waste we make either our backs a bit longer or we “water the flowers”, at least, back then. That’s a whole big pile of shit we produce and soon we found out that we need to contain it, or put it in canals. Soon after that wasn’t good enough either and we developed a sewerage. We got sick, not only of the smell, but literary we got sick!

As men and women are biologically are different, yes, it is, by far for most, most comfortable that women and men have gotten their own designated areas. Women aren’t keen on the urinals and men, well, at least me, simply are happy not having to see the disposal of pads and tampons. Also the prevention of unwanted attention of what is done in a certain privacy was established.

All of that resulted in the toilet, a clean (if it’s cleaned) place to hygienically dispose your own produced basis of compose. Or the result of the idea to maintain a good level of health.

In the same breath, existentialism also concerns about life. What was first? The idea of life or creation (for the religious people among us)? God, Allah, all-knowingly created human life to fulfill the need and deed of the holy books and live a humble, respectful, loving they neighbor as you love yourself concept. Or, we simply are born because our parents did the deed and we are born into a world to decide on our own faith. In any of the two versions, we were here unknowingly, found out who we are and how to find purpose to our lives.

Yes, yes, God doesn’t make mistakes, but (always a but), there are simply people who don’t feel well in their own body. Name them, shame them, respect them, love them, whatever your opinion is, that doesn’t take the fact away that these people simply feel that way. Now, living in the 21st century, we have managed that far that we physically can change our gender. Name it, shame it, it doesn’t matter, it is possible. I am very happy for those people to be able to use it and give the true existence to their own lives. Yahooo!!!

So here I need help. As I truly don’t understand it, and please comment on it in the comment section: We have a full functioning waste disposal system as in toilets, we have divided it into men and women. We have control over our own lives, specifically over our on existence and gender. Then, some random people, who happen to have some influence, just decide on whatever ground not to respect people giving themselves the identity and very existence they want to have out of their free will?

I mean, a face of either a man/woman, boobs (or not anymore), right tone of voice, through hormonal intake the skin and all changed just as any man/woman is. And those men and women, who not only are looking like men and women but ARE (or became) men and/or women, cannot go to a toilet designed for men or women because they aren’t born as one? And if they are discriminated against, they cannot go to court? Seriously? Do I understand that correctly?

“‘Men should not be going to the bathroom with little girls,’ Cruz said during a taping of an MSNBC town hall today. ‘As the father of daughters I’m not terribly excited about men being able to go alone into a bathroom with my daughters.'” – Ted Cruz (from Daily Mail)

Dear Ted! What ‘men’ are you talking about? What is the factual probability that a woman, who happened to be born as a man, “is going to be to the bathroom with little girls”? Do you think such a woman is taking a little girl by their hands, into a cube, lowering pants, better, lifting up her skirt, so that this poor little girl can see something that doesn’t look quite the same as her own downstairs?

I might have an understanding that there can be a confusion when a transvestite/drag queen who resembles to a man (unshaven like Chonticha Wurst) would go to a women’s toilet that there can be an objection. It’s a difficult situation as for the transvestite/drag queen it is not easy to go to the toilet of their own gender as their own gender might harass that person, and for the opposite gender a problem because it’s an opposite gender coming in that toilet.

But wait! Bear with me! There is more! Cultures aren’t the same! Wait!

In India, people do not use toilet paper! They swing their fingers smoothly around their hole, wash it off, and done! No clue how women do it during their period, but, I did join in on that culture. Clean with the left hand, eat with the right. What’s the deal? In, often, rural India women cannot go to the fields ‘to do their business’ after sunrise and before sunset. Men can. Yes, India is one of the countries that doesn’t have toilets for everyone in rural villages. Should women be protected from harassing men by doing their business only in the dark? Is it such a shame to be a woman to be discriminated against that way?

Or what about China! I was there at a high school, badly needing a toilet! I asked and they pointed to a building up a hill. So I went, and when I came around the corner, a whole row of boys with their asses over a concrete beam dropping their business in a big stinking hole! NO WAY! I turned around and didn’t need to go for the next 2 days straight! Not to generalize China at all, that was just a case I’ve experienced at that rural school. But still, there are more Chinese boys and girls pooping that way than there is a chance in the USA that there is a “man going to a restroom with a little girl”.

What about Thailand? When I, as teacher then, joined a school trip with a rented bus, I also noticed something absurd in Ted’s eyes. High school kids, the ‘ladyboys’, just went to the girl’s toilet! OMG! And the good thing about it was, when I asked the girls’ opinion? “But teacher! He is a girl!! Of course she goes to a girls toilet!” Okay, I thought, if that’s common for you and without any problem, then who am I to have any opinion about it. As we all know, Thailand is pretty developed and not a ‘backwards country’.

So, dear Teddy, and all the LGBT shamers, people are different, have their own values, culture, and beliefs from all different faiths. That’s not wrong, bad, or a risk. That’s human diversity and something we should be proud of. All humans have the right to live, to exist, and to give meaning to how they want to live meaningfully with respect and dignity towards themselves and others. Maybe you don’t swallow much, but that at least, you should!

Peace.

 

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About Daniel Arendzen

MSc Poverty Reduction (candidate), founder and secretary of www.moringaformawa.org. Developing the foundation, writing for the website and on konnexxion.net I write my personal view on current events. Contact me through daniel@stichtingmoringaformawa.org

4 responses to “The Toilet (a.k.a. The Restroom)”

  1. Felipe Postingher says :

    Hey Daniel, as I told you before, I loved the way you approach the subject. What I mean is like, you are considering what we do inside the bathroom. Because we should go there to do our biological needs and nothing else.
    After considering some perspectives of it. I realized that there is a lot of intimacy and privacy involved to this issue.
    I don’t really like intimacy and privacy, because these two concepts are too egocentric. (I mean in the egoist way and we all know how hard its to get away from it.)
    We spend our whole childhood going to different public restrooms than our opposite gender. Then we grow up, get married and shit in front of the loved ones, take shower together and so son. Why so? because they are close to us?
    THAT’S the point.
    We should treat and respect everyone as we do with our loved ones.
    Strange as it may sound I think that we should all use the same bathroom. Instead of the idea of creating one more restroom to transgender people. Why we don’t exclude one?
    Perhaps people don’t really want their little kids to see the world.While they should learn, understand and above of it RESPECT them.
    Some people will come up with the idea of sex abuse and some others things that are not connected to the subject. Its all pre-concepts against transgender people. I am hetero and I have to respect the choices of others. They are doing it because they feel like doing it. Im sure they are not doing it for fun or to seem strange.
    Talking about majorities and minorities, the probability of meeting a transgender person in the bathroom is very low. Also every single gay or lesbian I have met until today are all very kind, educated and respectful people. Its part of theirs behaviors being real polite.
    We have too much influence of religion in our lives. Fortunately we are starting to see and understand whats religion all about. Just in time to get away from it.
    You don’t have to agree with them and much less do what they do.
    set them free as you would like to be.
    On my perspective its waste of time being discussing something like that. Its all about being polite, respectful and mindful with every being on Earth.

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    • Daniel Arendzen says :

      Felipe!
      Sorry! Took me some time to reply.. But, gender neutral toilets do exist in some places. I do understand also that culture is that much imprinted on us that not everywhere gender neutral toilets are appropriate, but in essence yes, I agree with you.

      I actually didn’t want to generalize religion as all bad and the source of having toilets based on gender at all, in NC it happens to be conservatives based on religion who enforced that.

      Let’s see how it will end up

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  2. Anonymous says :

    Love the provocative end. It’s a human necessity ritual. Just like eating. The immediate reaction to be feared; consequently negatively charging others limits thinking. Fear’s only objective is survival. Politicians highjack it’s power. And fear that’s not kept in check, stopped after escaping the saber tooth tiger becomes endless. Their are gay women in restrooms. Their are women who wish they were men. This is from a woman’s perspective because I’m one. Sorry guys. And men who become women….I mean that decision involves intense reflection and dedication. Can we think in another’s footsteps? This is a person that wasn’t born a woman, but against odds has CHOSEN to become one. I doubt they’ve put the energy into this to check out women toileting.

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    • Daniel Arendzen says :

      Thanks for the comment! I hope that person feels the intense reflection and dedication paid off and that, despite the ‘bashing’, she does feel better being a woman. And true, the only thing we should fear is fear itself – Roosevelt As long as we have fear for all that is ‘other’ we never can truly get along. That’s a shame as the world is actually a nice place to be in.

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